What did you do in school today?
This question sounds normal, but the child is not able to tell every day's experience in words immediately. Forcibly asking for details can irritate him or put him under pressure. It would be better if you share something yourself, so that he feels comfortable and starts telling himself.
How many marks did you get?
By asking about marks and performance every day, the child starts judging himself only by the numbers. This can affect his confidence and self-esteem. Appreciate his hard work, desire to learn and small improvements.
Did you have a fight with your friends?
This question can revive memories of old fights. If he is trying to forget something, then this question can push him into the same stress again. Instead, you should have a normal conversation and give him a chance to open up.
Are you hiding something?
This kind of question can create a feeling of guilt and insecurity in the child. He starts feeling that he is being doubted. Provide children with an open and trusting environment, where they can share their things themselves.
Why did the teacher scold you?
Such a question can make the child feel embarrassed, especially if he is already under stress. This question can hurt his self-esteem. Instead, try to find out how his or her day went and how he or she is feeling.
What are positive alternatives?
Try these questions when talking to your child:
1) What was the most fun today?
2) Did you learn anything new?
3) Did something happen that made you happy?
This helps your child feel emotionally connected and open up.
Conclusion
Small changes in parenting make a big difference. Choose questions carefully so that your child not only feels safe but also comfortable sharing all his experiences with you. Love, understanding and sensitivity are the hallmarks of good parenting.
